Sexual Dissent

You’re Not Benefiting from the New Sexual Order, Are You?

Is being asexual okay?" my young friend Sami asked me by text.

How do you answer that? I met Sami through a college ministry I'm connected with, and the more I get to know her, the more I marvel at her sweet dispo­sition and childlike faith. Born to a teen mom, a sex-abuse survivor, and the victim several times over of a broken foster care system, she became a Christian at age eighteen through a hairdresser friend. I'm not her mom, but sometimes I put on a mom hat and field her questions.

"I think so," I texted back. "What is meant by asexual?"

"When you feel attraction but, like, don't want to act on it sexually," she said.