A Digital Harem and the Prison of Yourself

C.S. Lewis on Masturbation

"For me the real evil of masturbation would be that it takes an appetite which, in lawful use, leads the individual out of himself to complete (and correct) his own personality in that of another (and finally in children and even grandchildren) and turns it back; sends the man back into the prison of himself, there to keep a harem of imaginary brides. And this harem, once admitted, works against his ever getting out and really uniting with a real woman. For the harem is always accessible, always subservient, calls for no sacrifices or adjustments, and can be endowed with erotic and psychological attractions which no woman can rival. Among those shadowy brides he is always adored, always the perfect lover; no demand is made on his unselfishness, no mortification ever imposed on his vanity. In the end, they become merely the medium through which he increasingly adores himself…After all, almost the main work of life is to come out of our selves, out of the little dark prison we are all born in. Masturbation is to be avoided as all things are to be avoided which retard this process. The danger is that of coming to love the prison." -C.S. Lewis


One of the most viewed online articles at the Salvo website is Slave Master: How Pornography Drugs & Changes Your Brain, from the Summer 2010 issue. It discusses just what exactly this prison, as C. S. Lewis calls it, looks like, and why it can be hard to break free. But there is no need to despair. Acknowledging (and admitting to yourself) that it's a prison may just be the hardest part. Anyways, C. S. Lewis' thoughts on such matters seem much more loving and natural and healthy and scientific than, say, Kinsey's.

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