Abortion: It’s Not Just a Woman’s Choice

Raquel Welch made a surprising (for her) statement last week. Jerry Janquart excerpted this little gem she wrote in It's Sex O'clock in America:

"Seriously, folks, if an aging sex symbol like me starts waving the red flag of caution over how low moral standards have plummeted, you know it's gotta be pretty bad. In fact, it's precisely because of the sexy image I've had that it's important for me to speak up and say: Come on girls! Time to pull up our socks! We're capable of so much better."

Raquel_sd457802 That's remarkable in itself coming from a 60s sex icon. But I want to pick up on something else. She mentioned the pivotal moment in her life when she first became pregnant:

"Even though I was married to the baby's father, Jim Welch, I wasn't prepared for this development. … At the time, we were 19-year-old newlyweds, struggling to make ends meet. But he was unflinching in his desire to keep our baby and his positive, upbeat attitude about the whole prospect turned everything around. I have always loved Jim for how he responded in that moment."

When she became pregnant, she was afraid, confused, and vulnerable, but she found strength in her husband and his support. This enabled her to not only carry the pregnancy to term but opened her heart up to the wonder of becoming a parent:

"During my pregnancy, I came to realize that this process was not about me. I was just a spectator to the metamorphosis that was happening inside my womb so that another life could be born. It came down to an act of self-sacrifice, especially for me, as a woman. But both of us were fully involved, not just for that moment, but for the rest of our lives. And it's scary. You may think you can skirt around the issue and dodge the decision, but I've never known anyone who could. Jim and I had two beautiful children who've been an ongoing blessing to both of us."

As a mother of three children, I can tell you, pregnancy is emotionally and physically overwhelming. Another life has taken over your body – it's both wonderful and terrifying. But no matter how "together" you may otherwise be, you will also be, at some level or another, a mess in need of someone to lean on.

Which leads to my point about men and abortion:
Her husband was there for her and their children. Because of his moral backbone, their two children lived to see the light of day and became "an ongoing blessing" to both of them.

Men, listen up: If you become the father of an unborn child, you are that child's advocate, and you may be its lifeline. Speak up, be a man, and be the father your child and your child's mother need you to be.

You'll never regret it.

2 thoughts on “Abortion: It’s Not Just a Woman’s Choice

  1. GREAT! We don’t want to (indirectly) train up more spineless males!
    My mom was 19 when she became pregnant with me. My young parents struggled to provide for all 5 of us (who came in 6 1/2 years time!!!)
    Yet—that struggle had its beginning but had its end.
    My dad did NOT run away! He hung in there and (like his dad who supported 6 kids during the Depression) he STAYED!

  2. Having counseled many abortion-vulnerable women, I can not tell you how many times the women go in and get abortions because their boyfriends or husbands don’t defend their offspring. The abortion minded woman has been let down by the men in her life–either boyfriend, husband, father, or brother. They are oftentimes scared, alone, and feeling like there is no one there protecting them. The one time I did see a woman turn away from abortion was because her boyfriend literally went into the Planned Parenthood and begged her not to kill his baby.
    Modern feminism sucks. Men need to grab a set and realize it’s ok to protect women and women should get over their bad selves and let them.

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